I’m going to tell you something you may or may not already know. Are you ready?
You are enough.
Enough what? Enough you. Beautiful enough, rich enough, smart enough, cool enough, enough-enough.
As I make my way through all the online teachers, coaches and gurus….and through the burgeoning self-help section at the bookstore…I’m repeatedly struck by the same “icky” feeling. This uncomfortable feeling that the self-help medicine men and women of the world, are making us feel worse than we already do. Hearing them tell me that something is lacking in my life, or giving me fancy tips to become a better me, makes me wonder if I’m not a very good me to begin with. I have this feeling that I have so much to fix – that I’m nowhere near complete.
Well the truth is you are perfectly imperfect just as you are. And although we are bombarded by commercials and billboards (and sometimes our mothers) that we need to fix our hair, dress better, live in a bigger house or covet those expensive vacations, none of those things are going to make you a better person. I believe you instinctively know that you’re a good person deep down – your gut will inform you if something is out of line. All you need to do is listen to it.
Don’t get me wrong – I think we could all use freshening up. I don’t mean to discard the plethora of books and experts out there that do offer wonderful advice – many have great merit. I know I still have a lot to learn, but that’s okay. Perfection is never the goal (if it is, news flash, you’re going to become very close friends with disappointment.)
Life, and your place in it, is ever changing. You will grow. You will fall down. You will feel pain, joy, hunger, fear, love and doubt. You will smile so much that your cheeks hurt. You will experience life…completely.
I have this feeling that I’m here to remind you, and myself, of this message. That we must discard the shiny promises of “the good life” that others are dangling before us. It’s not real. It’s a mirage. If you stop for a minute and take stock of the blessings you have (from a nice pillow to a wonderful family), you will remember that you already have everything you need.
I’m just here to remind you.